Why Malay women choose foreign partners
(taken from Berita Minggu 11th July 2010)

The headline reads "LELAKI MELAYU TAK GUNA!!" (Malay men are useless!!)

First of all, this is not a debate to show the male ego side of me, nor it is to correct the writer, Ms Lulu Marlya. As it has all been in this blog, I'm looking at it from a different perspective, different environment and a sub-culture which is not favoured by our people.

Some of the reasons why Malay women opt for the non-Malays are :-

- Lack of academic qualifications
- Failure to communicate broadly due to the lack of knowledge
- Malay men are more egoistic compared to other races
- Malay men thinks they are of higher status than women
- the more qualified men are all taken.....

To be frank, I do agree with those reason to a certain extent. I, myself have come across Malay men who has the failure to communicate due to their limitations of knowledge, superbly-egoistic (we called it Mat-Champion), lack of academic qualifications and such. But..... I have also met many who are the opposites. Does this writer heard of the single guys at APM, 4PM or even Mendaki? The women interviewed also mentioned that the good ones are all taken..... hmm. Wait a minute...... are these reports taken from the 12 women she interviewed or.... her perceptions from the thesis she did??

Anyway, looking at the writer's pic, her name, dress-sense and family profile.... the 'foreign-factor' does play a part in her findings. But again, this is just me being judgemental and stereotyping of the Malay women. In fact, how these women socialize does have a great influence in what kind of men they prefer.

(actually, I wrote a 300-words rebuttal of these report. but I soon realize that it is useless to post them as the report was written based from an egoistic view of a Malay women who thinks that she's 'all-that'. On a different note, we should have a drink and discuss 'things', no?)

Moving on, some women would prefer to lead or when thinks she is in a better position to lead due to her qualifications, position at work or how much income she brings back for the family. If it works for the particular family, good for them. If it doesn't...... well, move on. Many forget about the mutual respect, love and compassion they had for each other. Driven by the society we live in, family values are left forgotten, love took a back seat and when all is gone, we'll blame others instead of looking at the mirror first.

I believe there are still a few good men out there. Some are hidden, some are still waiting, and some are as confuse as I am. Those who think there aren't any left, I think you're looking at the wrong places or haven't look hard enough. Those who have found these men and made them wait so that you can find a better man, (there aren't any better men). Those women who have been hiding these few good men for their own benefits - make sure these men are well-rewarded (with extra benefits). There are no such thing as a 100%-man. If you got a man with 80% attributes, be thankful......... coz the 20% will come from the women who loves her man.

Maybe we should learn to be thankful with what we got ....... Syukur Alhamdulillah.

"a few good men...."